Should You Have A Baby?

If you like your freedom, having a kid will cramp your style. It will also feed your soul.

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7 Facts — Not Opinions — on Having Offspring

You Are Never “Ready” To Have A Baby

It kills me when couples make proclamations like, “We’re going to enjoy being married for one year and then we will be ready to have a baby.”

You Have To Do Things You Don’t Want To Do — A Lot

Are you not into pirate sword fights and endless games of hide and seek?

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You May Have To Rethink Your Career

And that isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it could be quite the opposite.

Your Baby Will Ruin Your Relationships — In the Early Stages

Something no one talks about in the realm of new motherhood is how having a baby negatively affects your relationships with people. Namely, your relationship with your partner, your friends and whomever else reigns at the top of your people-you-love-and-care-about list.

You Do Not Have Nights Off

Even if you coparent, your “nights off” are still spent worrying about your child. Even if you know they are in the safest/best care possible, you still worry and you miss them anytime you aren’t with them.

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You Will No Longer Give A Damn About Petty Things

I have to admit. This is one of the greatest perks of motherhood. You simply don’t have the time, energy or desire to give a damn about office politics, family drama, friendship gossip and everything else that truly does not matter in the world.

You Will Feel A Happiness You’ve Never Felt Before

When you become a parent, there’s a consistent feeling of fulfillment that replaces that exhaustive chasing happiness race we’ve all been trapped in.

Important Takeaway

Early motherhood or parenthood (newborn to age 2) is not fun. It is terrifying and sad and lonely and strange.

Life is better when we laugh. I write about the importance of mental health & believe our weirdness is what makes us great. https://ashleyalt.substack.com/

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